“With our upmost grief and our profound loss, we want to thank our family, friends, and our community for the outpouring of love and condolences. Shelly was a true pleasure and the love of our lives. Her generous and loving heart blessed those who knew her. She was truly a loving, thoughtful, beautiful young lady that had goals and dreams as all of us have. Shelly is in the arms of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ and this is what gives our family great comfort. In the shadow of Shelly’s death we also want to express our support for the Kokomo Police Department and Officer Roy Smith.  Mental illness is truly a medical condition and it is in this respect that we want to focus our time and attention, as this is a condition that is underserved in most communities. Although Shelly was in the highest level of outpatient psychiatric care offered, she succumbed to the devastating destructive power of major depressive disorder, anxiety, and reactive attachment disorder. If we can all come together to work towards addressing mental illness and put this in a central position, not to be hidden on the outskirts of society, then Shelly’s life and death will not be in vain. Please remember also that the police protect our society and each officer is fully trained to make the best decision in a life or death situation and we understand the decision that Officer Roy Smith made. Our only wish was that Shelly never had put him or the police department in a position to make those decisions. Ultimately, it was mental illness that took Shelly’s life. Your love and support has been a powerful force to help us through this horrible time of grief.” 

The family of Shelly Lynn Haendiges 
Michelle and Teresa Haendiges